In the fall of 2011, after spending nearly a year in extended lockdown segregation, I was finally transferred to general population at Winn Correctional Center. Almost immediately, I was given the chance to join a musical group that included both "offenders" and "free people." It was during this time that I met Mrs. LaRonda Williams. Our shared passion for music and our sense of humor allowed us to easily become good friends. We spend countless hours laughing and finding solace in each other's company, makin our time together something we cherished deeply. Despite our close friendship, I initially kept my feelings in check, valuing the respect we had for one another. Then one day LaRonda announced she would be transitioning to a different career. I felt a wave of disappointment - I didn't want to lose what we had. While expressing my support for her decision, I also shared my heart, and I started to wonder if our friendship could develop into something more. Thankfully, she decided to stay. As we spent more time together, our conversations deepened. LaRonda was navigating a challenging period in her life and it seemed our talks brought her comfort amidst the turmoil. I would often wait for her in the chapel, eager to catch a glimpse of her smile and share a few words. Over time, she began to express her love for me, which led to discussions about a potential relationship. We explored every aspect of our feelings, leaving no stone unturned. However, I was still grappling with my own struggles and sometimes impulsively encouraged her to seek peace elsewhere, fearing I wouldn't be able to provide the love she deserved. Yet, she consistently assured me of her commitment and patience, and refused to walk away. Fast forward nearly four year after my release, and we are still together. We often joke about when we officially became a couple, but honestly, it doesn't matter anymore. What matters is the bond we've built. Some may perceive my commitment as an obligation due to our backgrounds, which I understand; however, I believe that when you find someone who shares your values, supports you unwaveringly and loves you unconditionally, you hold on tight. Life isn't without its challenges. There will always be opportunities for growth, and sometimes you may find yourself in moments of confusion. But when you recognize what you have and prioritize building on that foundation, the journey becomes all the the more meaningful. Life is complex and often comes with unexpected costs. Yes, having someone with strength, wisdom and beauty by your side, that's simply priceless.

Lance and I met in 2011 at the Winn Correctional Center. I was an employee and well, he was a resident, Lol! During my tenure there, the Chaplain decided to form a praise team, and both of us joined. From that point on, we became really cool friends and there was a genuine care and concern for each other. I remember one day in the chapel, I asked if he had a phone. Ta! Of course, he did! Lol! With his crafty skills, he used the keys on the keyboard to give me his number. As time passed, we became even closer and realized that our bond was deeper than just friendship. I found myself falling for this sweet, chocolate boy. That was nearly 11 years ago, and here we are today, still together. What drew me was how he accepted me—flaws and all—without judgment, making me feel safe enough to share my innermost thoughts. Over the years, he’s been my rock, my peace amidst the chaos, my best friend. I can’t imagine my life without him. Beneath his sometimes tough exterior lies a man who is loving, caring, devoted, free-spirited, and understanding. To know us is to understand our love language. At the time, many people might have walked away, but God has always been at the center of our relationship, and that has strengthened our bond, especially through difficult times. The love we share has kept everything in perspective, even when life gets tough. As most of you know, relationships take a lot of work and dedication, but when you find someone who’s willing to go through the hard times with you, you’re better equipped to face anything. Words can’t capture what Lance means to me. He can be a bit much sometimes (I’m sure you all know this!), but to me, he’s everything I’ve ever dreamed of. I fell in love with a perfectly imperfect man, one who always puts my needs before his, cares about my feelings, and makes sure I want for nothing. There’s never a dull moment with him; even in his sincerity, he’s hilarious! Just thinking about him brightens my whole world. What drew me to him wasn’t just his good looks, though those didn’t hurt! It was his personality, his character, his passion, and his drive. He’s got unique, God-given talents that I admire deeply. Our chemistry and connection are unmatched, and looking back on all the conversations we’ve had, I see that every promise made has come true. I’m beyond thankful to God for blessing me with such a special gift— a wonderful, God-fearing man, a hard worker, a provider, a family man… “My man, my man, my man”, my partner for life, and in just a few days, he’ll be my Husband. So, as you can see, pinpointing the exact moment our love began is impossible. But from where we stand today, I see no end in sight.