Come as you are but the festive version of yourself :) Something festive that you feel comfortable in and ideally not in white :) but if you must, that's ok too. Also, the ceremony is at the beach so be mindful that it might be windy and sandy. Guys can wear a suit with optional tie, no vest.
We have a registry on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/wedding/share/kieuandjared . But feel free to do your own thing too, we are happy to see you and whatever you come up with is fine.
We added a few hotel recommendations to the 'Travel' section at the top. The most convenient options are Asilomar (the venue itself), Pacific Gardens Inn and Best Western but if you have a car and don't mind driving, you could extend your search radius to have more options.
Most people from abroad aim to be in SF from around April the 8th. You can go to the venue (Pacific Grove) either on April 13 or on the actual wedding day April 14, it's up to you. We'll be there from the 13th. Most people seem to head out a day or two after the wedding.
We'll go back to SF next day and head out for our honeymoon from April 16.