FAQs

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When should I RSVP by?

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Please RSVP by June 30 so we can have an accurate headcount! If you need more time, please reach out.

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Do I need to RSVP on this website?

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Yes! Kevin and I are two busy professionals - show us you care by using our very nicely curated/organized Zola RSVP tool that will make this a whole lot easier for us than tracking down RSVPs via texts, etc.

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I was invited, but am considering not attending. Will this affect our relationship?

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We understand that life is incredibly busy - we extended invitations to all of the valued family members, friends, and colleagues in our lives to show how much we value and appreciate your connection to our lives - but we know that things come up and we all have our own priorities. While we of course would love for everyone to attend, it's MORE than fine if you're unable to! This is meant to be a celebration, and we don't want anyone to stress about attending. We DO ask that if you are unable to attend, you RSVP with your "no" ASAP so we can get an accurate headcount! Again, we understand that a "no" doesn't mean that we will won't be in touch or that you don't appreciate our relationship - all it means is that we'll have to find another point to celebrate one-on-one in the future!

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It says that vaccines are required. Is that true?

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As of 5/27/22, vaccinations are not explicitly required to attend this event. We are a pro vaccine couple and certainly encourage everyone in attendance to be both vaccinated and boosted if possible, and comply with any official CDC and state requirements (which are always changing!).

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I am interested in a wedding gift. How can I go about doing that?

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Firstly, thank you for considering this - your presence is "present" enough, and no one is obligated to provide a gift. If you choose to give a gift, we prefer that you give to our "honeyfund" on our Zola registry, or any of the other cash funds on our site - we are planning a trip to Italy shortly after the wedding, so any gift to making our honeymoon dream come true would be most appreciated! We ask that you do not bring any physical gifts (and the physical gifts listed on our website are for the amount of the item, but won't be actively shipped). Kevin and I have been happily living together in our small Brooklyn apartment for two years, so a lot of the traditional wedding gifts (mixers, cutlery), we either have or don't need at this time. In lieu of a gift, you may also consider donating to a charity or community based organization of your choice.

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Are kids welcome?

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This is an adults-only event, with the exception of the bridal party (kids being those between 0-13 years of age). If you do need to secure child care and need support to do so, please contact Kevin and Zoe directly at kevin.schlittenhardt@gmail.com and zacoyle@gmail.com, or 732-421-1209 (KS) and 718-873-5808 (ZC).

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What's the dress code?

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There's no official dress code, and we don't expect anyone to come in anything you're not comfortable in. At the same time, we've had very little to celebrate (or dress up for) over the past two years. The wedding party will all be in formal attire, so our preference would be "summer cocktails" - whatever that means to you! Since it will be August and potentially hot, light and airy fabrics are encouraged. You can wear shorts, short dresses etc - whatever feels most comfortable for you. Zoe is also a fan of headpieces, so if you like, feel free to wear any hats/headbands/wraps/barettes/etc that you'd like!

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I got a question about the wedding that's not listed! Who should I reach out to?

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If it's a general question, please reach out to both Zoe and Kevin at zacoyle@gmail.com and kevin.schlittenhardt@gmail.com, or group chat us at 718-873-5808 (Zoe) or 732-421-1209 (Kevin). If the question is more relevant to just one of us, please feel free to reach out to us directly.

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Kevin's really involved in the wedding planning. What's up with that?

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We are a team, and so excited to share and start our lives together - and that starts with wedding planning! Anyone who knows the two of us understands that we both bring unique strengths to our partnership. By having us both involved, we are able to create and fashion an event that hopefully reflects the both of us and will be true to ourselves.