FAQs

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Wait, are there two weddings?

Answer

Yes, to match our two engagements! We're thinking of it as a wedding in two parts. In order to make things a little easier for our friends and family on both coasts and so we can spend more time with each of you on the day, we'll be celebrating with a west coast and an east coast wedding. We will be holding a ceremony and exchanging vows at each.

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Can I come to whichever one I want?

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Please attend the event to which you've been invited. Otherwise, it presents sort of a logistical nightmare. We did our best to invite everyone to the one we thought would be most convenient, but if you'd rather come to the other coast, let us know and we'll see what we can do.

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Can I bring a plus one or plus two? How about my kids? Pets?

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Please only bring whoever is on your invitation. Again, logistical nightmares and all that. A majority of the kids in our lives are on the west coast and that wedding will be a very kid-inclusive affair. Please do not bring extra furry friends. For the east coast wedding, only children who are in the wedding have been invited. If you have a serious partner or partners that we aren't aware of, please let us know and we will do our best to make space for them.

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Are there hotel blocks?

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Because we've divided between the coasts, there aren't a lot of people who are traveling for either wedding. We don't have hotel blocks, but are happy to help you find accommodations for your trip. Things to think about are: would you rather be closer to the wedding venue, or closer to sightseeing? What's your budget for lodging? We're happy to help you individually. Just reach out when you're ready to book your trip.

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What should I wear?

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In either case, wear whatever you want! Seriously. Katie is dressing to the nines and Brooke is thinking of wearing shorts and a tank top. For the west coast wedding, we're having a picnic complete with yard games, sitting on the ground and porta potties, so dress comfortably. The east coast event is more formal, so if you want to dress up, think festive or camp! But seriously, wear whatever you want!

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Gifts?

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Yes, we did create a registry. That said, we are grown and doing just fine. If your love language involves giving gifts, we will love them. We are also very thrilled if your gift to us is your presence, especially your queer affirming presence, at our celebration. We also both really love words, so if you were inclined to write us a letter or a note, we would treasure it.

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Will there be alcohol?

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We have many people in our lives that we love that are sober, and we know that for some folks a little buzz gets the party going. The west coast wedding will be a dry wedding. The east coast wedding will have wine and beer.

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Will there be food?

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YES!!! We love to eat! For the west coast, we're having a bbq! There will be burgers, hot dogs, and veggie burgers. We'd love for it to feel like a potluck, so if you enjoy cooking, please bring a dish to share. The east coast wedding will be buffet style and will have both veggie and carnivorous options. Also cake! We're very excited about the cake.