Ceremony FAQ

Question

What’s going on with this ceremony? I hear it’s “non-traditional.”

Answer

A: The two main components of our ceremony will be 1) assembling an altar and 2) guests coming up to the microphone to share reflections, blessings, and all around kind words about Karla and Zoe’s relationship

Question

What the f*** is an altar? And how is it related to your wedding??

Answer

Our wedding altar will be based in the Mexican tradition of building an altar to call in our ancestors and other loved ones who have passed. These people are still in our hearts and we want to include them in our celebrations. We also want this altar to include you! So…we are inviting our guests to contribute an object to the altar — a rock you found at Blueberry Cove, a note with kind words, a drawing, etc. The purpose is to contribute something that is meaningful to you or that represents you.

Question

Wait, I’m involved in making this altar? How do I do it? And…do I really have to?

Answer

First and foremost, no, you do not have to contribute anything to the altar! We welcome all of you as you come, in whatever way makes you comfortable. Want to walk into the wedding, take a seat, and watch the celebrations? Great! Want to collect some items from Blueberry Cove, make art from it, and find a place for it on our altar? Also great! For those who would like to contribute to the altar, we will have materials set out for you — some objects from Blueberry Cove, paper, pens — so you have the option to make a little offering when you arrive for the ceremony.

Question

So what’s the deal with guests speaking at the microphone? (insert PANIC)

Answer

You can think of this as a wedding toast — just with a little more ritual and queerness. We’ll let you know when it’s time for guests to come up to the microphone. We envision this as an opportunity for our loved ones (you!), to share reflections on our relationship, to offer blessings, or to generally shower us with love <3. There’s no pre-assigned order. There are no expectations or time limits. Just share your thoughts if you’d like.

Question

I truly HATE public speaking. Do I have to do this?

Answer

No! There is absolutely zero expectation that you will come up to the mic. If one person shares kinds words, great! If 10 people want to share kind things, also great. We love you all and are so grateful for you showing up for us.