FAQs

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Why are you choosing not to use the traditional titles "husband" and "wife" after you get married?

Answer

We use "partner" as our titles now (pre-marriage) and we plan to continue to do so. We feel that, for us, the word "partner" denotes teamwork, support, love, respect, and equality. While "husband" and "wife" have similar important meanings for others who use them, we do not feel a personal connection to these terms. Also change is scary. :P

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Why is no one changing their name, darnit??!

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Again, change is scary. Also everyone likes their name as it is. Plus professional reasons!

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Why is the third in my thrupple not invited?

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Fire code capacity limits. Sorry! But for real... this is the wedding we could afford, kiddos. The room is small, but the beach is large! If we are not actively friends with your partner, then unfortunately they did not make the cut. Honestly, making the guest list was the toughest part of the planning process for us. If you're reading this, then we love you and couldn't bear the though of not saying our mushy love stuff in front of you. Thank you so much for understanding. <3

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Why are you choosing to forego so many wedding traditions? They work for other people, so....?!

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Everything we are choosing to do/say at this soiree is steeped in intention. We have thought hard (smell that smoke? It's us thinking hard.) about each element and have tried to be as thoughtful as possible about each thing. If we're doing something, it is because it makes sense for us personally. If not, it's because we don't feel a connection to that tradition.

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Can I bring a horse mask to the dance party?

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Yes.

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Is it true that 13-piece funky, brass ensemble, THE PARTY BAND, will be playing the reception?

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Hell yes. GET PUMPED. https://open.spotify.com/artist/05q8yhbs5URW2OMPoSS2rG