It all started at a little place called Boots & Saddles in San Jose, CA. Vanessa was there with a friend and Frank was there with his Compadre Robert. The ladies were playing a poker game set up on the bar top when Frank wandered over. By the end of the night, he had a choice of whose number to ask for~and Vanessa ended up being the lucky one. They started seeing each other, meeting up at the bar. that went on for about five months until one night, as Vanessa was rushing out, Frank finally asked "why do you always have to leave in such a hurry around this time?" as she dashed to her car, she looked back, pulled her pant leg to reveal a monitor, and said, "I have to be home by 9. But if you want to keep this going, meet me at my place." That was back in March of 2002 ~ and they have been together ever since. Frank liked the bad girl vibes. Both brought children into the relationship ~ Vanessa with three (two sons and a daughter), and Frank with a son and a daughter. The following year, they moved in together. By the end of 2005, they relocated to Fresno and truly became a blended family, raising all their kids under one roof. In Fresno they found a cozy local spot called Lancers, which was very similar to where they met, with the poker game set up on the bar top as well, it was like home. There they met some incredible people ~ many of whom became not just close friends, but framily. Now, 23 years later, they are finally tying the knot. Why did it take so long? Well, life hasn't always been easy. They've faced their share of hard times, including the heartbreaking loss of their eldest son, Christian, along with other loved ones, including Franks brother, mother and Vanessa's Godmother. But now, the timing feels right. And they're beyond excited to finally celebrate with all their family, framily and friends.