“I’m big Ben.” “Well … I’m big J.” Ben was in his red velour track suit, and I had a new bob cut, we were young! Through lots of laughter and life experiences, we supported and cheered each other through college and playing basketball overseas to joining the Air Force and living in multiple states. Although frequently an ocean away, we dated and built a friendship that endured the test of time. We met by chance sixteen years ago, and by choice, we loved.