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Melissa + Josh

    Our Big Day!
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Melissa Abele

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Josh Becker

May 13, 2023

Big Sur, CA

Our Story

Second Chances

Many consider marriage as a union that must be made until "death do us part". While we believe that is the intention and hope for all couples, us included, we're also very grateful that we both chose otherwise. A failing relationship with young children is as stressful as it is common. While some relationships are able and meant to weather these storms, other relationships are meant to shift in ways that can be painful. We both experienced that with our first marriages and we're glad they did. We both made the extremely difficult choice to give ourselves the opportunity for true love as well as to show our (5) children what that can look like. We also wanted our children to grow up knowing that change isn't always a bad thing and in fact it can be a great thing. We (virtually) met in October of 2015 and after many virtual exchanges decided to meet in person in July 2016. Our first full day together was in Big Sur. A scenic destination close to our Carmel home and one that mimics the weather of any strong relationship. In the nearly 7 years we've been together, we've weathered some storms but out of those storms we have flourished individually and as a couple. Like Big Sur, our relationship isn't just a picturesque ocean of blue, there are high seas, jagged cliffs, and prickly cypress branches. But that's what makes this particular relationship so unique. It's not that we exist absent of difficulties, it's that we've learned and continue to learn how to walk with each other through them. Our relationship serves to make each of us better, to become better parents, and to learn to love in new ways. We're excited to commemorate our union where it all started, in Big Sur, CA. We're so glad you'll consider joining us as we are intentionally creating an intimate environment where those closest to us can celebrate in this joyous occasion.

For all the days along the way
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