We love your kids—we really do. But we want our wedding to be your night off! The few kids that you will see at the wedding are included in the bridal party.
If your invitation has an additional guest count number, then yes. If not, we would prefer if it was just you.
Formal, please. Dress your best! But we want you to feel comfortable, so if those shoes are too high or that top button is too tight, let it all hang loose.