Fancy :) Black tie optional. John is wearing a tux; let that serve as inspiration, not pressure. Ladies, the ceremony/cocktail is on brick so any shoes should work.
We're hoping for sun but are planning for fog because Carmel. Bring a jacket or sweater to stay warm during the ceremony and cocktail, which are both outside.
We love your kids (we really do!) but this celebration is just for the grown-ups.