FAQs

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So how do I use your correct pronouns?

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For Jess, she uses she/her/hers pronouns, as in "she loves Arend" or "Arend is her spouse now!" or "That bouquet is hers!" For Arend, they use they/them/their pronouns, as in "they love Jess" or "Jess is their wife now!" or "That bouquet belongs to them!" (We know some of these pronouns are less familiar for some of you, and we know it takes practice, but what matters most is that you do your best!)

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What are your COVID guidelines?

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Because COVID is still a thing, and because Arend and other guests are immunocompromised, we ask you to: 1. wear a mask 2. take a COVID test within 2 days before the wedding. We will provide masks at the ceremony and reception. We will also have air purifiers in the venues to help keep the air so fresh and so clean. If you are sick, please stay home and take care of yourself (and others, by not spreading disease). We will feel the love from you, even if you are unable to attend. In fact, in such a case, this is the MOST loving thing you can do for us. We know masks can get uncomfortable, so if you're looking for one that has a comfier fit, we recommend the Well Before KN95 3D.

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What's the dress code?

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Ceremony: Church dressy, nice dresses, skirts, blouses button up shirts, blazers, ties, bow ties, dressy jumpsuit (basically not jeans/t-shirts). Reception: Dressy, low-key cocktail attire, whatever makes you feel dressy that isn't too hard to dance in! Sneakers and flat shoes totally fine/encouraged so as to protect your feetsies!

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What'll the weather be like in Feb/Mar in LA?

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Probably in the 60s during the day, down to the 40s or 50s at night, so be sure to bring a sweater/jacket/coat if you get chilly, but our ceremony and reception will both be indoors so you shouldn't be too cold during either.

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Are kids invited?

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Kids can attend the ceremony if you'd like to bring them! Just adults though for the reception.