FAQs

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When should I RSVP by?

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Please RSVP by September 24, 2025.

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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?

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The ceremony will begin promptly at 4:00pm. We recommend arriving around 3:45.

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Is there a dress code?

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The dress code is creative cocktail attire! Have fun! However, the most important thing to us is that you are comfortable for the duration of the event. Don't like ties? Don't wear one. Dresses not your style? Please wear pants. Dress shoes make your feet hurt? Leave them at home. Please consider: This wedding is outdoors in late October. Average highs in the St. Louis region are 60 degrees, and the lows are around 40. The pavilion is heated, and there will be bonfires in the evening. Please dress accordingly. Please reserve white for the nearly-weds.

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Is there transportation to and from the hotel to the ceremony?

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Yes! There is a shuttle that will transport people from the hotel to the event and back. Times for pick up will be posted. There will be unlimited trips back to the hotel from the wedding.

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Is there parking at the location?

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Yes! If you plan on partaking in the consumption of alcohol or cannabis, please plan on using the a designated driver, shuttle, or a ride share. Your safety and the safety of others is paramount.

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I have dietary restrictions, can I make a special request?

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There will be vegan and gluten free options available. Please reach out to Jayden and Sarah with other requests and questions.

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Will libations be available?

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There will be an open bar with beer, wine, a signature mocktail with the option to add a shot, and THC infused drinks. There will also be cannabis available to smoke. Only guests over the age of 21 are invited to participate. Please do not drive under the influence.

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I'm disabled. Are there accommodations available to me?

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Jayden and Sarah are disabled too, so yes! If there is something specific you need, please reach out to Jayden or Sarah. Accommodations we are already planning to have available to guests: -We will have a secluded area where alternate activities will be available for guests. While we don't anticipate the wedding being loud, the wedding is outside, so noise will travel. However, this section will be out of the way and more quite. -Ear plus will be available for use at any point during the event. -Bathrooms are sizable and nice. There are a few steps up to the bathroom. A wheel chair accessible portable toilet is available for use as well. -There will be seating in excess. -The venue is not large, however ground some sections are grassy. That being said there are multiple people who use mobility aids in the wedding party (Sarah included), the venue was chosen with this in mind.

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Are kids welcome?

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While we love kids (especially yours), this wedding is not going to be child friendly due to the presence of (excessive amounts of) cannabis, inevitable public use of expletives, and PG-13 jokes. We are happy to provide assistance finding child care for the duration of the event. We trust you to know your high school aged kids best. They are welcome if you would like them to accompany you. Please note: The last hour of the event may not be the place for kids at heart, as we will be having our "ratchet hour." Expect twerking, explicit music, and general raucousness.

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This is an unapologetic queer, interracial, disabled wedding. What does this mean for me?

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The wedding will be innately political because of the intersections of the identities of the nearly-weds. We wish it weren't this way, but it is the reality of the world we live in. With that being said, this is a joyous event. We are excited to celebrate with you. We invite you to bring your full selves. We will celebrate the identities of others, and especially the nearly-weds themselves. Tidbits that may be helpful to know: -Sarah is a bride, and Jayden is a groom. What they wear may not reflect traditional expressions of those titles. -Please don't assume anyone's pronouns. There will be multiple trans and nonbinary people in attendance and in the wedding part -There will be people using mobility aids (canes, walkers, etc.). Including the bride! There will be other disabled folks whose disabilities are not immediately visible. Please refrain from asking invasive questions and otherwise commenting on people's disabilities.