At the tender age of 11, Jay laid eyes on Robin, in his mind the most beautiful 13 year old girl he had ever seen, walking up the stairs hesitantly into her first Alateen dance. Jay and Robin were both brought into Alateen, a support group for kids/friends alcoholics by their mothers, where they would share many meetings, conferences, and great times together. It was there that a lifelong friendship of love, trust and understanding began. Jay wrote Robin poetry - Robin resisted Jay's advances. Years later in 1999, Robin stood next to Jay as his best woman at his first wedding. Jay watched Robin's cats while he had to watch sadly as she embarked on years' long travels. We stayed in touch throughout our lives, sometimes more, sometimes less. We regret so profoundly we didn't fall in love much earlier in life, that it took until this time to come together. Robin told Jay in 1999 she would let him know if she ever felt that way - and wishes he had not been so respectful all these years. And then, 2 years ago, when we fall madly in love, we knew that finally, in each other's arms and hearts, we were safe and we were home. We reminisce often about the many years that have gone by in our lives and know the exact moments when we could have come together and wish now that we had. Robin remembers Jay feeding Zarai an "Uncrustable" (for those who don't know, this is a fake peanut butter & jelly sandwich that comes frozen) when she was just 2-1/2 in his Pleasanton apartment. If we had only known what each other was truly going through, we could have avoided so much pain. Yet we both know in our hearts that our path led us exactly when and to where it was meant to, and we had life experiences to live and lessons to learn before we were ready. We have one word that explains it all, as engraved in our rings, and that is "MINE". Jay and Robin, finally nesting together with our little birdie Zarai. We are so excited to join together as a family on August 3rd, 2019