Wedding FAQs

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What is a Bedeken?

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The Bedeken is the veiling ceremony, where the groom covers the bride’s face with her veil just before the ceremony. It’s a moving moment shared with close family and friends, symbolizing modesty, love, and tradition.

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What is a Chuppah?

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The Chuppah is a wedding canopy where the ceremony takes place. It symbolizes the couple’s new home together, open on all sides to represent hospitality and the welcoming of loved ones into their shared life.

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What is a Poleholder?

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When a chuppah isn’t freestanding, it’s held up by four people—called poleholders. It’s considered a special honour to be asked, as they quite literally support the couple as they begin married life.

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Why does the bride circle the groom seven times?

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This tradition, called hakafot, sees the bride circling the groom seven times under the chuppah. It symbolizes the building of a protective space, a spiritual home, and a bond that surrounds and strengthens their new relationship.

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Why does the groom crush a glass?

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At the end of the ceremony, the groom breaks a glass with his foot. This powerful moment reminds us of the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem and the bittersweet nature of life—but it’s also the joyful cue for everyone to shout “Mazel Tov!”

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What are horas?

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The hora is a joyous circle dance, usually to the sound of traditional Jewish music. Guests form circles around the couple—often lifting them up on chairs—and dance with pure celebration. Expect laughs, music, and a lot of clapping! There will be hora leaders, follow their guidance and lean in!

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What is Birkat Hamazon?

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Birkat Hamazon is the Grace After Meals. It’s a series of blessings said or sung at the end of the wedding feast. At Jewish weddings, it can be festive and musical, bringing guests together in gratitude and joy.

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How long does it take to get to Belair Pavilion from Cape Town?

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Belair Pavilion is located in Paarl, about 50–60 minutes' drive from Cape Town, depending on traffic. We recommend allowing a little extra time to enjoy the scenic route—and not be late for the ceremony!

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What should I wear?

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The dress code is Garden Formal. Think elegant but relaxed: For women: flowy dresses, florals, soft pastels, or bold colours; block heels or dressy sandals (there is a lot of grass). For men: lightweight suits, dress shirts (ties optional), or tailored summer wear—think linen, cotton, or light wools. Cape Town summers can be warm during the day and cooler in the evening, so bring a light layer just in case.