Stage one: I can't say the way we met or how we started talking was romantic by any means. You were to young for me, you were close to my friend who's like a sister to me, I was a mom and was already with someone else. I think we were good as friends. Stage two: Although you flirted with me and I was single now I needed to focus on my son and myself. I was a full time student, full time employee and split time with my son. My life was too complicated for you to start where I was. Until It didn't matter... You surprised me with flowers, my favorite candy, and came to visit me everyday after school and work. Both our busy schedules but we made time. Time to talk, time to learn about each other, time to connect and bond. Stage three: Meeting my son for the first time felt nerve-racking but then watching you boys bond was so cute! Watching you really show interest in the things he was showing you. You being just as excited to see him if not more than to see me. I started really falling for you. Stage four: We have been together for a while now, we have had our fair share of ups and downs and learning how a relationship is supposed to work. It's been hard but we are learning together. You and I against the problem. I think everyone has a bad habit of making relationships sound so easy and that there aren't things that make you want to see if you would do better on your own but choosing to stay together and battling the hard times together instead. Stage five: Planning a wedding, moving into our first home, having a child full time. These life time events are bound to get one person mad at the other. But with this happening, all in real time I want you to know that I love you all time even when You are mad at me, frustrated, sad, depressed, overwhelmed, exhausted, overstimulated or having a laid back lazy man moment. It's never easy but I think you are worth loving in all of these difficult moments. I hope you love me when I am mad at you or everyone, when I'm frustrated, sad, depressed, overwhelmed, exhausted, overstimulated or having a crazy lady OCD moment where everything in the house needs to be clean because I feel like my skin is crawling. ( for those who have not come to my house I swear my house is 80% spotless all the time but everyone has their 20% every now and then when we aka I just need a time out. screw the adult responsibilities) I might not like you all the time but I love you always and I want to work through the hard times together. I want to agree to disagree on things as long as its with you. I want you to complain because I clean to much and never relax and me be okay with your complaints because I warned you before we bought the house that is how I am. I want to learn this "you and I against the problem" way of life and do that with you. Vows used to be a silly concept to me how can someone make a promise forever and keep it for that long. Then we started our journey together and I can say that there are days when I have to repeat them to myself but that in the end I vow to love you, through sickness and through health, for better or for Worst, For richer or for poorer. I vow to cherish you and to devote myself to learning you each and everyday for the rest of my life. I love you Kyle! Owen and I both love you so much. Thank you for loving us enough to join us all together as one family! - Love your soon to be Wife Jada