JULY 13TH UPDATE: It's clear that the Delta variant of the virus is much more contagious, so our wedding ceremony is still limited to those who will be fully vaccinated by July 17, 2021, or who have recovered from COVID-19. (Except for children - vaccinated or unvaccinated children are welcomed to attend the ceremony and reception.) Approximately 100 people will be attending the ceremony, and the chapel seats 130, which limits the ability to social distance. Masks are recommended for everyone, and mandatory for unvaccinated adults. We're sad not to share this moment with all of our friends and family, but the chapel is small and we really don't want anyone to get sick. Everyone is invited to the outdoor reception at Chateau Lill, where we'll have an outdoor cocktail hour, dinner, and games for the kids. If you're still uncomfortable attending because of COVID-19, we understand and will raise a glass with you once it's all over.

An honorable human relationship — that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love” — is a process, delicate...often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other. It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation. It is important to do this because in doing so we do justice to our own complexity. It is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.

Creating a partnership based on mutual respect and equality is important to us, so we're both taking a new last name: Milton. It's the first three letters of Ryan's last name (Miller) combined with the last three letters of Holly's last name (Hetherington). Once we're married, you can call us the Miltons. Easy!