We love your kids- we REALLY do, but for this occasion we want this to be a night off for you! We did invite kids who are close family, so if that includes you, your invitation will say "Mr. and Mrs. Person + Family" otherwise you're off the hook for the night!
We do not have a planned shuttle, unfortunately. We would suggest carpooling as much as possible and definitely considering UBER or LYFT. The drive is about 25 minutes from Lancaster City to the venue.
We have considered this common question - - your invitation will say "... + Guest" if your are allowed a hunny for the day, otherwise we just have you for the count.