Let's try again... We are so excited to Celebrate with you!

Matt decided to give online dating a first try when a Facebook ad promised "attractive women for Ivy League men," while Fei joined a dating site promising "Ivy League men for Ivy League women." We met for drinks in the West Village and quickly discovered that Matt's senior design lab partner had been Fei's high school best friend. Almost immediately we became, perhaps on account of our shared Midwestern background and strikingly similar conceptions of how families can come to and thrive in this country, at home with each other.

On their third date, Fei surprised Matt with the revelation that she was planning to move to South Africa. Although Matt was quite certain at that time that he would never leave New York, he was unfazed by her announcement and decided to "play things forward." ... After three years of moving, schooling, traveling and job-hunting, in San Francisco we finally came together again. We are so grateful to have lived between the two of us all over this great country: Illinois, Michigan, Philadelphia, Seattle, Boston, New York and now San Francisco. We came to California for its opportunity, and year by year we come more to appreciate its bounty. Before perhaps things move again, we are thrilled to share with you a little bit of what out here we've found.

The quintessential California singer-songwriter Jackson Browne filled his 1974 album "Late for the Sky" with symbolic images -- water, road, dreams -- but fittingly he referred most of all throughout to the "sky," a symbol of salvation and release not dissimilar to the green light at the end of Daisy's dock. One of the very first things we talked about when we met was our shared belief that hard work, self-sacrifice and delayed gratification are the path to salvation in this fallen world. We are both proud of our ancient cultural backgrounds and extremely grateful for our familial ancestors, who gave so much of themselves to put us where we are today. We believe we are a part of that, and that our wedding is a step in our doing the same for our future generations. At the same time, we believe that our wedding should be a celebration -- of how lucky we are to have found each other, of how much we love each other, of how blessed we are to have so many caring family members and friends around -- and by the time the day fades from blue to black, we hope our celebration will have been a moment in the sky for everyone in attendance.