Come Celebrate Our Love!

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With our wedding coming up and in light of the current climate of our country, and with save the dates scheduled to go out soon, the two of us wanted to let our friends and families know (or remind you of) some important things. Not all of this will be new information for all of you, some may know some things but not others, some may find themselves unaware of every piece but it was important to both of us to be fully open about our lives at this point. We hope this openness will deepen our connections but are also prepared for divided reactions. We are both racially diverse. Evan is African-American and Panamian. Evyn is African-American, Chinese, Native Hawaiian, and white. Both of us have done advocacy work for our racial communities and both of us believe that engaging in protest of racism and celebrating our identities are necessary acts. We are both LGBTQ+ and both identify within the trans community. Evan is polyromantic and polysexual as well as asexual. They use he/they pronouns and identify as gender nonconforming. Evyn is pansexual and panromantic and is exploring where they fall on both the aromantic and asexual spectrums. Evyn is pronoun neutral and happily acknowledges any pronouns. Both of us are polyamorous. We currently have a mutual third partner but both of us have, and continue to, dabble in dating and relationships with others. Both of us live with mental health challenges and different forms of neurodivergence. These invisible disabilities have often led to challenges as some believe that our levels of intelligence and functioning invalidate these experiences. Nevertheless, these experiences are part of daily life for both of us. We are both kink and alternative lifestyle educators. Our membership in these communities has led to deep and beautiful friendships with sex workers, sacred sexuality practitioners, body mod extremists, disability activists, and many others who have been marginalized for the work and play they choose to engage in with their bodies. We share all this to say our wedding will be a wonderful day surrounded by friends and family who are members of all of these communities, some of these, and none of these. We hope to welcome everyone who both of us love. HOWEVER. Our wedding will also be a safe and accepting place for our communities and for all the diverse, weird, and wonderful people our communities have brought into our lives. If you cannot be respectful of the identities and lived experiences of the people in our lives, or of us, we respectfully ask that if/when your invite comes, you decline. Our wedding will be about love. And there will be no tolerance for hate or disrespect.