Yes, there will be a ceremony. No, it will not involve solemn organ music or a flower girl with stage fright. At approximately 6-ish, we’ll interrupt the merrymaking to declare our eternal devotion, scribble our names on some government parchment, and be loudly proclaimed husband and wife. Then we resume the festivities, legally bound and cosmically delighted.
According to absolutely no one official, the dress code is fancy casual, which is like casual, but with better posture and maybe a martini. Confidence is mandatory; everything else is optional. I’ll be wearing my grandmother’s wedding dress (and I dare you to outdo the bride), the groom will be wearing only half a suit, and you can wear whatever makes you feel like the hero (or stylish villain) of your own fever dream. Gowns? Great. Sandals? Sure. Both? Iconic. Some parts of the party take place on a lawn, so choose footwear that won’t sink into the earth like a tragic metaphor. We know this non-answer of a dress code will haunt the planners among you. If you’re spiraling, text us... we’ll assign you a vibe at random. All this to say, dress how you would like. I really think it would be fun to have some people in Hawaiian shirts and sandals and others in full formal wear. We love a little chaos, so dress the way you choose. We're just happy to have you there.
Yes! Your kids are invited. They are on the guest list and not just because you are.
We highly recommend using Google Maps to get here. Apple Maps, for reasons known only to Apple Maps, will confidently deliver you to the wrong house. Please make sure you are entering Sunny Creek Road from College off El Camino in Carlsbad. There’s also a directions tab on this website if you want to double‑check that your navigation app isn’t lying to you. And yes… it is down a dirt road. Consider it part of the adventure.
There will be a set. A vibe. A little editorial magic. We hired a fashion photographer. Not the kind who takes senior portraits in front of a barn. The kind who can make a trash can look like it’s dating Timothée Chalamet. She’s wildly talented, slightly terrifying, and fully prepared to immortalize you in pixels that scream “main character energy.” So here’s the deal: you are the moment... if you want to participate, dress like it. If your outfit says “I just came for the charcuterie,” the camera will say it louder. Visit the Photo Moment tab on this website to learn more and why I've included it on the FAQs page.