FAQs
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What's the dress code? I know it says "whatever we want", but what does that mean?!
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It truly means just that! Do you love to dress up in a fancy outfit? Have you ever wanted to wear a onesie to a wedding? Do you just feel best in jeans and a t-shirt? Do you have a favorite dress that you rarely have just the right occasion to wear? All of these and more are so very welcome! We actually mean "whatever you want"! And don't worry about that "don't wear white to a wedding" rule. Della won't be wearing white, or cream, or anything close, so feel free to let your white dress go to a party! There will be dancing, so you may want to bring comfortable shoes to change into if you're wearing dress shoes.
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When should I RSVP by?
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Ideally by the end of June. If you forgot, and it's August 12th, let us know! I'm sure we can fit you in. ;-)
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Did you realize you have a NINE HOUR WEDDING?! Do you really expect me to be there that whole time? I mean, I love you guys, but....
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Much like the parties at our house, this is a come-when-you-want kind of thing! However, if you have a food allergy/restriction, please be sure to at least answer the questions regarding that. Also, if you only RSVP for the reception, then decide you want to stay for the after party, you are absolutely welcome to!
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Can I bring a plus one?
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All people who are invited singly are welcome to bring a +1, even if you aren't in a relationship, as long as we know about them, so please include them in your RSVP! Also, if you have kids and we forgot to include them in the invite, they are also welcome, and again, please include them in the RSVP.
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I really want to come, but I have social anxiety and I'm worried I'll get overwhelmed. What should I do?
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We totally understand! Large noisy crowds are not always fun, even when it's a party for someone you love. There are a few options we've thought of! 1. If you really don't want to be in a crowd, we won't be hurt! Please don't feel you have to join us if it's really not your thing. This doesn't mean we don't want you there! We just want you to know we understand. 2. If you come, and get overwhelmed and need to leave, or want to leave before you get overwhelmed, please know you are so very welcome for however long you can be there. Say hello, or stay the whole time, your comfort is important to us. We know you love us, that's why you're invited! 3. If you come, and you need to take breaks away from the crowd, we're setting up the room above the dining area as a quiet space to get recharged, get a few minutes away from the chaos, etc! Please feel free to stay there as long as you like! 4. Any other solutions you come up with, we're happy to accommodate if we can. Please let us know.
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I have a food allergy, can I make a special request? Also, I don't drink alcohol will there be anything besides water for me?
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When you RSVP, there will be space to list these. Please list life-threatening separately from allergies or preferences. We'll be doing our best to make sure everyone has delicious food to eat! We understand not everyone imbibes, and don't want you to have to just grab something from the "kid's" drinks. There will be yummy things to drink for everyone!
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Are kids welcome?
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Yes! The only exception is the After Party, which is adults only. Please include them in your RSVP's so we have enough space and, more importantly, food for everyone. We'll also have some activities for them to do, and a room where they can go if they get overwhelmed and need some quiet time on phones/tablets/etc.
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Is there parking at the location?
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Yes! We will have the full use of the golf course parking lot. However, if you have an option to carpool, it will help make room for everyone.
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Is there anything I can help with?
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Well, aren't you sweet for asking! ;-) We are looking for people who can help set up/take down the tables and chairs. Times would be before noon, and around 11pm-ish. No obligation at all, but let us know if you'd like to join the crew! Thank you! <3
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What the heck is this Scottish Country Dancing?!
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OMG I'm so glad you asked! It's super fun, and the dances we're choosing are designed to be able to be done even if you've never done SCD before! There will be people there to help, and it's a style designed to be done even if you don't have a partner at the wedding! (in fact, you'll be regularly switching partners!) Please trust us, it's seriously fun and easy! Bring shoes that are easy to dance in, or feel free to go barefoot!