FAQs

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Didn't you already get married?

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Yes! We were concerned about some things going on politically regarding the standing of Obergefell v. Hodges, the Supreme Court case that federally protects same-sex marriage. We went to the courthouse and got legally married on November 12th, 2025. This wedding will be a vow renewal, and the ceremony will be the spiritual expression of our bond. We also want to celebrate with all the people we love!

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What happens at a Pagan Wedding?

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The ceremony will look a little different from what you're probably used to, but there's no need for concern. Our officiant will call upon nature spirits and old gods for their blessings, and our vows have been custom-written with inspiration from ancient Celtic and Viking vows. There will be a handfasting ceremony. Handfasting is an ancient tradition dating back millennia and practiced by cultures across the world. It involves a decorative cord being wrapped around the hands of the betrothed, at once physically and symbolically binding them together. It is the origin of the phrase "Tying the knot." As a guest, you will not be asked to participate in any rituals. All ritual matters will be performed by the grooms and officiant with some help from the wedding party. You will only be asked to send blessings or positive energy, and this can come from whichever god or power you believe in.

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What if I don't want to attend the ceremony?

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If your own religious or personal beliefs conflict with attending our ceremony, not to worry! We completely understand. We encourage you to attend the reception so we can spend the evening with everyone we love. We ask that you communicate this with us when you RSVP. If you still have questions regarding the ceremony, please reach out to Gabe.

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What should I wear?

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Our wedding has a high fantasy theme. The major points of inspiration for our theme come from Dungeons & Dragons, Lord of the Rings, and ancient myths of old gods, witches, heroes, and monsters. If you choose, you may dress with these inspirations in mind, but it isn't required. If you will not be dressing in theme, we ask that you dress in formal wear. Two- and three-piece suits, floor-length dresses, pantsuits, formal footwear, and tasteful sweaters and overcoats are all acceptable options. We also encourage you to wear dark jewel tones or fall appropriate colors. The ceremony will take place outside, and the venue features an outdoor patio, so dress appropriately for the weather.

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Can I bring my whole family?

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Due to capacity restrictions imposed by the venue, only those whose names appear on your invitation are invited to attend the wedding and reception. If you were given a plus-one, this will be reflected on your invitation. Take the opportunity to have a fun night without the kids!

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I don't drink alcohol. What are my options?

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Neither do we! There will be a separate alcohol-free mocktail bar at the reception. The bartender will have NO alcohol behind their bar, so you won't have to worry about any mix-ups. And you won't have to sip soda the whole night- our signature mocktails feature Seedlip alcohol-free spirits, so you can enjoy a fancy drink without breaking your abstinence! We will also have 0% beers if that's more your speed.