FAQs

Question

Wait... what does "Chaldean" mean?

Answer

Chaldeans are an ethnic group with roots in ancient Mesopotamia (modern-day Iraq). Most Chaldeans today are Catholic and speak a modern form of Aramaic (Sureth), the language spoken by Jesus. The culture is rich in tradition, family, hospitality, and — lucky for you — celebration.

Question

Is this going to be a religious ceremony?

Answer

Yes! Our ceremony will be a Chaldean Catholic wedding, which follows a beautiful liturgy in the Chaldean Rite. It may be in English, Aramaic, or a mix of both. If you’re not familiar, don’t worry — simply follow along, enjoy the traditions, and know that your presence is what matters most.

Question

Do I have to do anything special during the ceremony?

Answer

Nope! Just arrive on time, dress respectfully (think church attire), and enjoy the experience. There may be some standing, sitting, or bowing, but you’re not expected to participate unless you feel comfortable doing so.

Question

What should I wear?

Answer

Chaldean weddings are glamorous. Guests — especially women — often dress to the nines. Think formal or black-tie optional: suits and ties, gowns, cocktail dresses, sparkles, heels, the whole deal. That said, you do you. Dress in what makes you feel confident and respectful. Here's a Pinterest link for some extra help! Unfortunately I can't hyperlink it so copy/paste it into your browser: https://pin.it/5UqwhyOgD

Question

Will there be loud music and dancing?

Answer

YES. Chaldean weddings are known for their vibrant dancing, live drummers (called zurna and dahola players), and lively energy. The dancing starts before dinner (so make sure to eat those appetizers!) and goes well into the night. Don’t worry if you’re not a pro — follow the crowd and have fun! You might even learn a traditional line dance or two. There will be a mix of songs in Sureth, Arabic and English throughout the night.

Question

Will there be Chaldean food?

Answer

Yes! The menu will reflect both of our backgrounds — expect to see some delicious Chaldean dishes alongside American favorites. Get ready to eat well and don't forget to save room for dessert!

Question

Will there be any other cultural traditions I should know about?

Answer

Traditional line dances, like the khigga, where guests hold hands or pinkies and move in a circle to the beat of the drums. Lots of family involvement — Chaldean culture is very family-centered, so expect warm welcomes from everyone! Ululation (Halaleh) — Get ready for high-pitched trills of joy! It’s a vocal celebration done by women throughout the wedding. You’ll hear it during entrances, dances, or joyful moments. It’s a beautiful sign of happiness.

Question

Are gifts or money customary?

Answer

In Chaldean culture, cash gifts are traditional, and we kindly ask that guests honor this custom by giving a monetary gift in place of items. Your generosity helps us start our life together, and we’re truly grateful for your support and love. Envelopes will be available at the reception if needed.

Question

I’m nervous about doing the “wrong” thing. Any advice?

Answer

Don’t be! Everyone is here to celebrate love and joy. If you’re unsure about anything, just follow the lead of the people around you — or ask! Chaldean hospitality is real, and you’ll be welcomed with open arms.

Question

Final thoughts?

Answer

This wedding is a blending of two families and cultures — and we’re so lucky to have you be part of it. Whether you're new to Chaldean weddings or grew up attending them every weekend, your presence means the world to us. Let’s dance, eat, celebrate, and make unforgettable memories together!