We recommend flying into SFO, but Oakland is also an option! You can Uber from the airport or take public transit.
Unless you plan to explore outside of the city (Napa, Muir Woods, Monterey) you won't need a rental car! The hotel blocks are walkable to the wedding venue and there is accessible public transit, Ubers, and if you're brave; WAYMOs!
The dress code for the wedding is black tie optional which means black suits, tuxes, and long more formal dresses are encouraged. This is your chance to wear that dress you never get to wear. We want you to feel your best, hot, like you walked out of a magazine. There is no such thing as upstaging the bride here- we want you to come out feeling your best.