So happy you asked! These are Erica's pronouns, as they are a non-binary person. Meaning that they do not use (she/her). These are not a preference or a choice, it is simply who they are! For the sake of clarity, Charley uses (he/him) pronouns. We ask that you respect these and make every effort to use them properly when addressing or talking about Erica. Please remember that we love you (thats why you're invited silly!), and if you love us too you will make the effort to get this important detail right on our biggest day. Here are some examples of how to use them correctly! 1. Wow! (They) look so beautiful today! 2. I wonder where (they) got (their) outfit? 3. Do (they) want to take a picture? Lets ask (them)! 4. Jeeze! (They) sure are a great dancer! I bet you're thinking "well if Charley is the Groom, what do we call Erica?". Cause we are thinking the same thing! Weddings don't really offer a lot of options in this case, so we are going with Groom! If you are still looking for more information and would like additional resources, take a look at this video below for more information. And remember, we love you! We appreciate your effort and understanding, and encourage you to ask questions! We are happy to clarify anything you might be confused on! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1X6oHlz-SY
We all understand that mistakes happen, and what really counts is your effort and intention. Pronouns might be something new for you, and that is okay! Plus grammar hasn't really caught up with the times (see Bradley for an extensive lecture). In the event that you mess up Erica's pronouns, we encourage you to continue the conversation normally. You can quickly correct yourself in the moment, or we might do so. An example would be: "Wow! She looked so beautiful walking down the isle. - Sorry, (They) looked so beautiful! Simple as that! But please leave the longwinded apology at home! Its probably just going to make us all feel a bit funny, and remember we love you! We strongly encourage you to try your best and make the effort to support us on this big day, but to remember that we understand this might be a new concept for some!