FAQs

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Expectations from the Brides

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1. NO POLITICAL TALK ALLOWED! 2. Respect people's names and pronouns. We will provide name and pronoun placecards to help with this. If you aren't sure, and the person doesn't have one, ask politely! "Excuse me, what are your pronouns?" It's as easy as "how do you know the brides?". If you make a mistake, a simple apology and correction is expected. 3. Please choose your words and language carefully. This is a group gathering from all walks of life, and we want everyone to feel comfortable and accepted. 4. If there is a concern or question you have on the wedding day, please do not ask the Brides. Instead, one of the members of our Bridal Parties or Fellowship would be happy to answer for you. 5. Please do not propose, announce a pregnancy, or do/announce any other major life event at our wedding. We will be glad to hear it and celebrate with you on literally any other day. Just not our wedding day. 6. There is no smoking or drugs of any type allowed at our wedding. We want everyone to be safe and sober! A violation of any of the expectations set by the Brides will result in action from The Fellowship.

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What is The Fellowship?

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Glad you asked! It's a group of our close friends whose job it is to handle day of questions or concerns. They will be clearly identified in our program so you know who they are. The Fellowship is also responsible for letting you know if you have committed any egregious action against any party/parties during the celebration. If your offense is significant, you may be asked to leave.

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What is the dress code?

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Great question. Our dress code is a mix between Garden Party Formal and "Fantasy Semi Formal". So, if you have a pretty floral outfit or fancy Renn Faire attire, either is welcome! Get creative, wear whatever makes you feel the most confident and fabulous. Got elf ears and want to wear them? Great! Have a fancy set of platform heels? Bring them! (But maybe also a lower shoe for dancing). We want our guests to feel free to express themselves however they wish, so long as you do not come wearing a wedding dress or all white.

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Will there be alcohol?

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No. Indiana has weird alcohol laws that would make it difficult. We also have many people who will be driving to the ceremony/reception, and we want to make sure everyone gets where they are going safely. Other beverages will be provided!

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How do I know if I've gotten a plus one?

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Great question. On your envelope, it will specify "and Guest" or the other person's name after yours.

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A person I expected to be on the guest list isn't/I didn't get a plus one.

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With our budget, we cannot afford to have everyone we want attend our special day. People who are not on the guest list are not expected to contribute to our wedding financially or get a gift for us from our registry. An invitation or lack thereof has no bearing on the person. Just because someone isn't invited, doesn't mean that they are any less loved or the relationship is any less valued. We thank you for your understanding.

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Are children attending?

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No, it’s an adults only wedding!

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How can I RSVP?

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You must type your first and last name on the RSVP page on the website. If there is more than one of you in your party, you can enter their name(s) after yours. If you are having technical issues, please reach out!

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Tell me more about your registry!

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What we want the most is to have a trip we can remember for the rest of our lives, and if you would like, you can send us to have some neat experiences! But the greatest gift of all you can give us is to be with us on our special day. You don't have to contribute to our honeymoon fund! You can if you want to, but don't feel obligated! Life is expensive, and you are more valuable to us than any monetary amount.

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I absolutely cannot wait! What should I do?

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Have you thought about giving Dungeons & Dragons a try? Seriously! It's how we met and it is so much fun. Otherwise, get your outfit ready, learn some fun dance moves, and get excited with us for our big day!