FAQs

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Do you have a registry?

Answer

Yes, BUT! We do not expect gifts. Your presence on our special day is a gift to us in itself! However, if you are inclined to check out our registry, you can access it here: https://www.zola.com/registry/carmenandsasha

Question

Do you really not expect gifts?

Answer

We do not. This is not a weird high-context-culture double-bluff: American wedding gift practices largely hail from a time when newlyweds were just beginning adulthood, and moving out of their parents' homes to boot. This is not our situation, fortunately, so our focus and gratitude is directed especially towards our guests' willingness to spend their time with us to celebrate.

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What's the deal with the Mobtown Ballroom?

Answer

Mobtown is primarily a swing dance venue: it opened fourteen years ago at another building in southwest Baltimore, and since then has developed into a community arts space. It's home to a variety of events and groups outside of the swing dance scene, including concerts, open mic nights, and local queer art markets. I (Sasha) first went to the Ballroom in 2018, and it anchored me in a community that I'd lost when I graduated college. I took Carmen there soon after we met, and we've been regulars at dances and other events in the years since. Having our wedding somewhere other than at Mobtown would be like forgetting to invite a friend.