FAQs

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Why did you guys go with this rather nontraditional, spaced-out structure to the wedding events?

Answer

We really were trying to make the whole traditional ceremony-and-reception combo work, but weddings are such huge events with so many moving parts that we were getting very stressed out trying to plan it, even in the beginning stages of planning. Even getting time off of work to go look at venues was stressful enough! We started to dread bringing up the wedding with each other and would go into planning sessions already feeling drained. On top of that, once we saw some price tags on venue and catering, and started trying to hash out guest lists, it officially all became too much. What resonates the most with our hearts is a small, stripped-down ceremony with an incredibly intimate feel, and that's exactly what we're going with. We don't want to miss out on partying with our friends, of course, and that's why we're having a fun, casual reception before we go on our honeymoon! And Kenny and Alicia (Kianna's parents) are generously throwing us a reception for our extended family members that will take place in Texas. This way feels exponentially less stressful to us, and more reflective of who we are as a couple--ready to have a great time and include everyone we care about, while still protecting our mental health and turning the planning process into something that's actually enjoyable.

Question

When should I RSVP by?

Answer

Please RSVP two months before the date of the event you're replying to. For the ceremony, that's January 25; for the family reception, that's February 1; for the friends reception, that's February 28.

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Why aren't you inviting other people to the ceremony?

Answer

Because we want it to be very small, and frankly, picking and choosing people to come to the ceremony ultimately has more potential to hurt feelings than just saying "immediate family and bridal party". Also because we do not want to overwhelm Brian and Helen's hospitality!

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Why are you doing a family and friends reception separately?

Answer

Two reasons: first, because of the relative density of Kianna's relatives in Texas versus the couple's friends in Memphis, and second, because of the different feel to the two events. The family reception will be larger and have a bit more of a traditional feel, while the friends reception will be casual and open-structured.

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Why isn't Kianna taking Brent's last name?

Answer

Kianna prides herself deeply on the heritage in her full name and wants to keep it as a way to honor and remember her roots. In addition, she is a Doctor of Physical Therapy and feels there are already going to be enough Dr. Russells in her immediate family!