We love your kids -- but this will be an adults only affair. We want our wedding to be your night off so please plan accordingly.
If your invitation says "and guest" then yes, if not, we wound prefer if it was just you.
Cocktail attire please, but we want you to be comfortable. So, if those shoes are too high or that top button is too tight, let it all hang loose! We just ask that you please do NOT wear jeans.