FAQs
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Are you guys actually getting married in Connecticut?
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It's a valid question. Anyone who knows Tom has probably heard him voice his feelings about Connecticut before. Unfortunately, the venue that we had initially planned on booking (which was close to Tom's childhood home in the Hilltowns) ended up being run by nazi flat-earthers, so we had to adjust on the fly, and this is what we landed on. The venue itself straddles the Massachusetts/Connecticut state line, but most of the facilities are on the Connecticut side. Most likely we'll either legally get married in Massachusetts prior to departing, or we'll find some way to run across the border prior to saying "I do". We understand everyone's concern on this point, and we're working to find the most acceptable solution.
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If I want to stay at the camp part or all of the weekend, what do I need to do?
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If you intend to camp out in a tent, or in a camper/RV that doesn't require any hookups, then you don't need to do anything at all. However, it might be somewhat cold, so we anticipate people wanting to use the two heated bunk-houses which are available on site. If you would like to do that, please note your interest in staying on the respective "after party" sections of the RSVP link. Guests staying in the bunk houses will be expected to bring their own linens.
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What is the food/drink situaiton?
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We wanted to do something a little less structured, and hopefully a little more fun, than a traditional wedding. In lieu of formal catering/bar service, we are going to provide buffet-style meals prepared by our friend Tim Funk of Rack Slabbath BBQ. We want to get a good idea of how many meals we want to prepare for Friday/Saturday/Sunday, which is why we have broken the RSVP out into multiple sections. If you have any dietary restrictions, please feel free to let us know and we will do our best to accommodate. In terms of drinks, we will be purchasing a large number of both alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages, so there will be coolers and kegs that guests can help themselves to. In addition, guests are welcome to bring their own food and drinks if they would like to.
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What can we expect in terms of live entertainment?
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On both Friday and Saturday nights, we will have live music in the hall, performed by our friends, who tend to be heavy metal bands. We are going to try to prioritize bands on Saturday that should be accessible to a broader audience, at least compared to the Friday bands. We also plan to have a DJ for the wedding reception.
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What sort of facilities are at the campground?
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The site contains a 3,300 square foot mess hall with a large stage, a commercial kitchen, and a wood stove and propane furnace. There are two bunk-houses. The log house contains 30 beds across five bedrooms, along with three bathrooms, one with a standing shower, and a kitchenette with a sink, fridge, hotplate, toaster oven, microwave, coffee pot, but no oven. the yellow house contains 16 beds across four bedrooms, along with a bathroom with a standing shower. There is also a bathhouse with six toilets, showers, and sinks, broken up across two bathrooms. There is also an outdoor stage, a swimming pond and covered bridge, and a barbecue pit. A large outdoor pavilion is being constructed and may or may not be ready in time for the wedding. We may also rent a large tent.
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Are there any rules or restrictions on the site?
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The owners have a few fairly reasonable requests. They don't want people smoking inside, they don't want a bunch of pets running around, and they would like us to keep the loud music and whatnot inside after 9-10 PM. They don't mind us being loud inside the mess hall late. We plan on bringing Sophie to the wedding, but we would prefer that other dogs stay home unless there's a medical need to bring them, since her social skills are not overly refined yet.
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I need more guidance about what to wear
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Basically, on Friday and Sunday, we're going to be dressing for comfort and you should too. On Saturday, we're going to get dressed up, and we encourage you to get dressed up as well, whatever that means for you. The space is going to be fairly rustic, and the wedding is in October, so we would advise you to have comfortable/practical footwear and something warm with you. But also, our guests are coming from a lot of different backgrounds and cultures, so just wear what you think makes you look nice, and don't worry too much about it.
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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?
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The wedding ceremony will start at 3:00, but a lot of us will be getting there Friday and staying over, so feel free to show up any time prior to that.
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Are kids welcome?
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Totally. We don't currently anticipate a ton of kids at the wedding right now, but we want our friends and family members with kids to be able to attend, and we're happy to discuss what would need to happen to make that work.
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Can I bring a date?
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We did our best to include a plus one for everyone who we expected to bring one, but obviously life circumstances change. If you intend on bringing someone with you, just let us know ASAP so that we can make sure we have enough food and whatnot.
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When should I RSVP by?
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In terms of the RSVP, the most important thing for us is that we know how much food and space we need. We also would like to start figuring out where to put the people who are staying over. For all of that, the sooner, the better.