We're not 100% sure either. The good news: we get to make it up as we go! The bad news: we have to make it up as we go. At the end of the day, we'll both be there, we'll get married, and we'll have a good time with our loved ones. Everyone should be so lucky.
We're both wearing dresses. We were going to flip a coin to see who had to wear a suit, but then we realized we can do whatever we want (see question #1).
The loser of the dress/suit coin toss. We decided to each keep our own last names. It's less of a statement than it is a reflection on "God, that seems like a lot of work." Also, "Campbell-Schroeder/Schroeder-Campbell" is just too damn long with way too many letters.
Maybe. We're going to invite her when we see her at the next Lesbian Quarterly Meeting at Home Depot.
We don't know either, they're just adorable.