FAQs

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Can I bring a plus one or my child?

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We wish we could celebrate with everyone, but due to space and planning considerations, we are only able to accommodate the guests who are specifically listed in your RSVP on our website. If your invitation includes a plus one or your child, their name will appear there. Thank you so much for your understanding and for making the effort to celebrate with us — it truly means the world to us!

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What should I wear?

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The dress code for our wedding is cocktail attire. Neck ties for men are optional. Our wedding will take place in late spring/early summer, and the island can be hot and humid, so check the forecast when planning your outfit. If you are wearing a dress, please do not wear white or any colors that can be mistaken for white (like ivory, cream, or very pale pastels); however, bright colors and floral patterns are encouraged! It is considered respectful for all male guests to wear a kippah covering on their heads, if comfortable doing so. Kippot will be provided onsite and available to all guests regardless of gender identity or Jewish status. There's no need to worry about Jewish modesty laws (tzniut) when choosing your outfit. We want you to feel comfortable and dress as you would for any wedding. If you need further guidance, please reach out.

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What kind of Jewish wedding will this be?

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Our wedding will be a traditional Jewish wedding with an egalitarian approach. While we aren't using a specific label, our special day will include central traditions foundational to our culture, like meeting under the chuppah, the signing of the ketubah, and the breaking of the glass. We both come from interfaith families, and it's important to us that everyone feels welcome in celebrating with us.

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Will there be separate seating or dancing?

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Our wedding is egalitarian and LGBTQ+ friendly, and thus there will be no gender segregated seating, dancing, or dividers known as "mechitza."

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Will there be kosher food?

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Our wedding is catered onsite and will be kosher style with fish and vegan options. Please let us know of any additional dietary restrictions you may have.

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Why is the wedding on a Sunday?

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One of the core parts of the Jewish wedding is the signing of the Ketubah, or marriage contract, by the bridal couple, officiant, and witnesses. This cannot be done on Shabbat, the Jewish day of rest (sundown Friday to sundown Saturday), according to Jewish law. It is also said that sharing two joyous occasions on one day- the wedding, and the Sabbath- would cause one to push aside the importance of the other. Due to these time restrictions and late spring sunsets, it is generally unheard of for Jewish weddings to take place on Friday afternoons, Saturdays, or Saturday evenings post-sunset. In Israel and in more observant Jewish communities in America and across the globe, Jewish weddings often take place on Tuesdays, as Tuesdays are considered more auspicious. However, Sundays are a great alternative!