We love your kids - we really do. But we want our wedding to be your night off! So we respectfully request that you don't bring kids that aren't on the RSVP list.
If you invitation says, "and Guest", then yes, if not, we would prefer if it was just you.
Cocktail, please. But we want you to feel comfortable, so if those shoes are too high or that top button is too tight, feel free to let loose.