FAQs

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What is the official dress code?

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The dress code is formal! You are expected to dress your best and finest! There are very few times in life where you can dress up in glam or in a suit and this is certainly an occasion to do just that. We prefer that our guests stay on a color scale that's dark, deep and moody: Black, Navy Blue, Burnt Orange, Burgundy, Deep Plum, Emerald Green, Hunter Green, Wine, etc. If you any doubts, go with Black. Meaning, this isn't a Spring event so no pastels or bright colors.

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Can I bring a plus one?

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Every guest on our list was thoughtfully hand picked to be part of our big day. No plus ones! We’ve had to turn people away at this time.

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I just came to this page to find out if Carmelo finally got a dog or not after your first engagement?

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Yes. He finally did get a dog and her name is Tofu!

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Can I bring my own alcohol?

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The short answer is no. We will be providing an open bar so there's no need for you to bring your own.

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Is there a smoking area?

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Yes there is. It's outside and away from the reception venue.

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What can I expect as food options?

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My brother is graciously providing all the food during the cocktail hour and reception. There will be pasta, salads, bread, soups, chicken tenders, meatballs and other yummy foods. We have taken into consideration that we have both Jewish and Muslim family and friends as well as vegans. There will be options for everyone and labeled as such! If you have a food allergy, please let me know by either texting me or calling me.

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What is parking going to be like?

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Free and self parking on site.

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I want to stay closer to the venue, any suggestions?

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Please refer to the "Travel" tab of our site. We added a few hotel options for a closer stay. If those don't appease your taste, then find your own damn place :)

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What is the mask or vaccination policy for the wedding?

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We don't have one. We thought this through and have decided that each person will make the decision that makes them feel comfortable. We hope everyone knows how to properly wash your hands and your ass and know NOT to shake other peoples hands with dirty hands. I hope we all know how to properly sneeze - in the sneeze pocket - and not a full out and openly exposed sneeze attack on other people. If you don't know what the "sneezing pocket" is, ask a child. They've taught this in kindergarten. We will have bottles of Purell. You all know how to social distance if that's what you want to do and we would also hope you don't go around kissing strangers. Note: If you're feeling sick - Please be responsible and honest and skip the wedding. I'm sure we can figure out how to celebrate with you in the future.

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Why don't I see a gift registry?

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It's because we don't have one. We have what we need for our home and wouldn't want to double up on those items to then store things away. Instead, we have provided a list of monetary gift options on the invitations and the registry tab if you choose to bless us towards our honeymoon or even a future home, God willing! Update!!!!! People have already been asking for a gift registry so Ian & I will do a registry for those who feel more comfortable providing a gift.

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Is this an indoor or outdoor wedding?

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Both. The ceremony will take place outside @ 5pm. By this time, the weather should be cooler so there are less chances of mosquitoes and humidity. Cocktail hour will also take place outside right after the ceremony. The reception is taking place indoors.

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What will happen if it rains?

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We will just move everything inside.

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Plated or Buffet Style?

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Dinner will be provided as buffet style. All dinnerware will be sanitized before being placed on each guests seat and handled with gloves. You will be the only one touching your own plate to avoid cross-contamination by other people touching your plate.

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Will seats be assigned?

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Yes they will. Please find your name and table number on a mirrored frame that will be standing somewhere nearby.

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Will there be an open bar? Cash Bar? Is it limited?

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We will be offering an open bar but that doesn't mean it's unlimited drinks. By that I mean, be mindful of how much you're drinking. We're estimating 3 drinks per person and that's being generous because we know that not everyone will drink that much or at all. With that being said, we will provide enough to have a good time but not for you to get drunk. We want everyone to arrive to their destinations safely at the end of the night. Our bartender will have a tip jar so feel free to tip his hard work!

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Will there be non-alcoholic drinks?

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Yes! There will be assorted sodas, hot teas, coffees and non-alcoholic champagne for those who don't drink alcohol and can still can partake on the celebrations and toasts!

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Is this a child-free wedding?

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No it is not! Children have been a huge part of our lives and can't imagine taking this step without the kids that have brought us tons of love, joy and laughter!

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I didn't read what you wrote about "not getting drunk" and I went "YOLO"?

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If you get a little too 'litty lit' we will offer coffee, hot teas and hot chocolate to get you back on track to drive to your destination safely. If you're still not okay to drive, consider carpooling with a family member or friend or UBER. The site will allow you to leave your car overnight for next day pickup.

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I'm obsessed with social media and consider myself a professional iPhone/Android photographer, can I take my own pictures of the day?

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I love pictures too! However, during the ceremony we prefer our guests enjoy a FULLY UNPLUGGED experience. We have hired an amazing photographer who will be in charge of taking all the great pictures, with all the great angles. If we get our pictures with you in the background because you are standing, with your phone out taking a picture of us walking down the aisle or up by the altar, I will fight you. I know where you live. I have your address.

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What should I expect during the ceremony? Is it a religious ceremony?

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We want everyone to enjoy themselves from the moment you arrive to the venue until the very end! We are in the process of figuring out how to balance a vibe that's both fun with moments of seriousness. Pastor Joey Salazar from Journey Church will officiate the wedding that will have elements of religious ceremony. With that being said, it will be evident that this is a Christian wedding and our personal focus for the ceremony is to honor and praise the God of second chances. As a couple walking into marriage we believe and declare that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior and through Him we are forgiven and saved from sin. As a couple, we've been preparing for the holy covenant of marriage and are fully understanding that this is a covenant to be taken seriously and with commitment. There will be a section of the ceremony where we will do a praise and worship - a song - to display our thankfulness and humbleness of what God has done in our lives that have brought us to this day. We're aware that there will be friends and family of different faiths and don't expect any of you to participate but we believe that this can be an opportunity for you and your family to thank God for all the ways He's shown you love, kindness and blessings. Some etiquette can be displayed during this time is in either standing with us or sitting quietly. We love that you are here to support us and love us regardless of our different faiths!

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Live Band or Dj?

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Dj! We expect there to be LOTS of dancing! Bring your joyful hearts, your twerking abilities and dancing shoes. No twerking, just kidding!

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When is the RSVP by date?

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The RSVP by date is September 1st.

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What if I miss to RSVP by date?

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If you miss the RSVP by date no worries! We understand the business of life can make us forgetful at times. If you miss the RSVP by date we will send out a text reminder allowing you some time to respond. If by the second reminder you DO NOT respond to the RSVP we will take a NO RESPONSE as you declined our wedding invitation. We will not reopen the RSVP again after. Please DO NOT show up to our wedding if you didn’t RSVP via our website as you will not find a seating available for you.

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Did you RSVP? This message is for you!

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We are so incredibly thrilled to share this momentous day with you all! If you received an invitation understand that you were personally hand picked by both Ian & I because in some way shape or form we shared a moment, a memory or even a prayer that lifted me, Ian and/or the both of us up. We shared moments of encouragement, a moment of healing or laughter. You have touched our lives and believe our relationships will continue growing and flourishing in the future. With that being said, if you RSVPd please show up. We understand emergencies happen that are outside of our control but we’re not referring to that. We’re referring to, you RSVPd and simply didn’t show up. Ian & I are putting our greatest efforts and most importantly our hearts into every single detail of our wedding to provide you with an amazing experience and unforgettable memories. We’ve personally designed everything from plates to the drink menus to even setting up our own coffee bar. Food, specialty beverages, cutlery, cups, etc are purchased depending on the guest count. We don’t want to see food go to waste because a handful of guests decided not to show up. Please show up in the dress code provided, on time and with hearts open! We can’t wait to see you all!