FAQs

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What should I wear?

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Formal, semi-formal, or cocktail is appropriate for dinner. The cookout on Saturday is casual.

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Why such a small event?

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We’re having a closed, modern day elopement with an intimate dinner to celebrate afterwards. Although love is priceless and we’d want to share this day with the world, putting forth what it would take to host a big wedding and reception doesn’t quite align with our values. Big weddings are beautiful and we understand why couples host them. Truthfully, though, a big wedding just isn’t our vibe. We couldn’t in good conscience spend the money ($33,000 on average) to have something we weren’t too sold on. Together we’ve concluded that by having a small elopement ceremony and a more inclusive, yet intimate dinner afterwards, we are able to do something meaningful whilst being comfortable with the financial impact.

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When should I RSVP by?

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September 4th.

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Why is this only a reception, what about the ceremony?

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After much consideration, we’ve decided to have a closed, private elopement ceremony. The reception is a celebration where we can enjoy our first dinner as a married couple together with more of our closest family and friends. This decision was not made with the intent to exclude anyone, nor does it indicate where people fit into our lives. It was our most realistic and practical option. It will be extremely meaningful to us if you’re able to attend the reception, but we understand if you choose not to. …there will be crab legs and cake though.

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I was only invited to a reception, but I really want to witness the ceremony. Can you make an exception for me?

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Unfortunately, no. We’re over the moon to officially wed at a place that is very sentimental to us, but with that opportunity came very strict guest count restrictions. It is a closed elopement ceremony and we aren’t able to accommodate attendees outside of immediate family. If we could, we would. To make sure we still get a chance to share the joy with more of our loved ones, we’ve opted to celebrate afterward with everyone at dinner. The reception is a very significant part of our day and we want you to be there with us.

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Are kids welcome?

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Our celebration dinner is an adults-only event. If you need a special accommodation for newborns or infants please let us know.

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Can I bring a date to the reception?

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Due to budget and space limitations, we can’t account for all of our dinner guests to bring a guest of their own. Unless otherwise indicated on your RSVP screen, the only guests we are able to accommodate are those who have received an invitation. You can bring a guest to the cookout the next day, just let us know beforehand.

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Is the cookout before the dinner?

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No. It is the day after our reception.