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Update: In light of COVID-19, we wanted to let you know our wedding is going forward as planned. If you’re no longer able to attend, we completely understand. You can update your RSVP anytime on our site, and we wish you health and safety during this difficult time.
Update: In light of COVID-19, we wanted to let you know our wedding is going forward as planned. If you’re no longer able to attend, we completely understand. You can update your RSVP anytime on our site, and we wish you health and safety during this difficult time.
May 1, 2021
Saint Paul, MN
#minstergottfriedhandfasting

Laura & Adam

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If you have a question that is not answered here, please reach out to Laura or Adam.
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What COVID precautions are you taking?

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All attendees (with the exception of children under 2), will be required to wear a mask at all times unless they are actively eating or drinking. Masks must cover the mouth and nose. If you are unable or unwilling to take this precaution, we politely request that you decline the invitation as many of our loved ones are severely immunocompromised and high risk. We will have disposable masks available in case you do not have one. If you refuse to wear a mask, you will be asked to leave. We will be grouping people by family and social distancing as much as possible. Our guest count is intentionally low to minimize risk. We will have hand sanitizer available in multiple places as well.

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When should I RSVP by?

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Please RSVP no later than April 10, 2021 so we can get an accurate count to the caterer.

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What is a handfasting?

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Laura and Adam are (respectively) pagan / heathen. Handfasting is a ceremony in which the hands of the two being joined are literally tied (or fastened) together, and has been practiced by pagans for centuries. It has also become increasingly popular as part of non-religious or even Christian weddings. Laura and Adam are also polyamorous. Handfastings are common with polyamorous groupings since legal marriage can only occur between two parties.

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Are kids invited?

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Generally children are not invited, with the exception of infants and children who have been specifically included on invitations.

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Can I bring a date?

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Because of Covid concerns, only individuals specifically invited should attend.

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What's the dress code?

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Cocktail attire, please. But we want you to feel comfortable, so if those shoes are too high or that top button is too tight, let it all hang loose. Because we will be outdoors, we encourage you to avoid heels that may be problematic in grass. There will be a bonfire in the evening, so feel free to bring clothes to change into.

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Is there parking for the ceremony or reception?

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Parking will be on the street, there is no specific parking for the ceremony and reception. We encourage guests to carpool, Lyft, or Uber where possible.

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Are you registered? Where?

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We are not registered. In lieu of gifts, we encourage you to donate to our preferred charity, the TREVOR Project, or to a charity of your choosing.

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What is polyamory?

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Polyamory means we believe love is boundless and are open to multiple loving, committed relationships. This involves open, honest communication and the informed consent of all parties. Adam and Laura both have relationships with other partners, some of whom will be present at the ceremony and reception. That being said, don't be surprised (or alarmed) if you see Adam or Laura being affectionate with or kissing another of their partners. A celebration of our love does not and should not exclude our other loved ones.

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