Aroona Toor
Haris Arshad
Aroona Toor
Haris Arshad
November 23, 2025
Our Story
Written by: Mushtaq Dualeh Edited by: Iman Naim بِسْمِ ٱللّٰهِ ٱلرَّحْمَٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Dearest gentle reader, One would hardly believe it if told that our heroine, Miss Aroona Toor, scholar, worldly dreamer, and changemaker, born in Lahore and raised in the heartland of St. Louis, would one day fall head over heels for a gentleman from Karachi who regards Hanover, Maryland as if it were Disneyworld itself and speaks of BWI with the reverence one might reserve for a national treasure. And yet, fall she did. For then came Mr. Haris Arshad. Mr. Arshad, a proud son of Maryland by way of Karachi, is a gentleman whose calm exterior hides a sly cleverness. He is quietly brilliant, though his humor has a habit of arriving sideways, often in the form of a perfectly timed joke that leaves Miss Toor rolling her eyes even as she laughs. By trade, he is an IT consultant; by discipline, a black belt in karate; by obsession, a walking sports almanac with an inconvenient loyalty to the Wizards; and by heart, a most devoted Swiftie. He is also the man who insists Miss Toor remain his “passenger princess” while he drives an hour and a half to see her (one way). And what of Miss Toor? Ah, she is the spark. The youngest of four, she has long been the dreamer, the connector, our darling Aroona weaves communities together in every city she graces. From St. Louis to Atlanta to DC, she doesn't just move somewhere, she becomes it. Currently pursuing her doctorate (because brilliance apparently needed certification), she's the rare breed who can deliver groundbreaking public health research and still remember your birthday and show up for those she loves. Thoughtful, inquisitive, ever the seeker of truth, she is a force of both heart and mind. But don't think she's all sweetness and light, she's the sort who asks the questions that need asking, seeks truths others might find inconvenient, and has the rather endearing (if occasionally infuriating) tendency to be right about most things. How did these two find each other? Not in one grand cinematic moment, dear reader, but slowly, like verses building into a chorus: in teasing remarks that became inside jokes, in the long drives where Miss Toor happily claimed her spot as passenger princess, in grocery runs and everyday errands that somehow felt like little adventures. It grew in the countless small choices to show up for each other, to turn the ordinary into something extraordinary. What began as opposites occasionally sparring transformed into balance. He is the Slytherin to her Gryffindor, the Swiftie to her side-eye (and yes, he will defend Taylor Swift’s 1989 album as though it were sacred scripture), he is a man who makes space for her boundless dreams. She is the spark who nudges him into adventure, who makes his calm feel electric. What they’ve built, gentle reader, is like a perfect playlist: hers alive with 2000s anthems and Disney and Bollywood ballads, his overflowing with Taylor Swift classics. And somehow, impossibly, they play in harmony. Together they pen the very best kind of Love Story (Aroona and Haris’ Version). It is a love that feels, in every season, like the most exquisite of bridges. The one you cannot help but sing along to, loud and unashamed, windows down, laughter spilling into the wind as the world rushes past in shades of autumn gold. Welcome, gentle reader, to the Haris and Aroona Era. May Allah bless their marriage, place barakah in their union, fill their home with mercy and joy, and grant them a love that leads them together to Jannah. Ameen.
Wedding Details
Sunday, November 23, 2025
Shaadi & Valima (Shalima) Reception
6:30 pm - 11:00 pm
400 Regency Park, O'Fallon, IL 62269
Desi Formal/Black Tie
The Shalima Ceremony is very formal. You can wear formal South Asian attire or the Black Tie equivalent - suits, long evening gowns, etc. Check out our pinterest board for inspo! https://pin.it/3TwEUzZ94
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Travel Information
Hotel
Hotel Block - Hampton Inn O'Fallon
We have a courtesy hotel block at Hampton Inn in O'Fallon, IL which is across the street from the Shalima Venue (The Regency Conference Center). The rooms are ~$124/night.
Discount Code - WAR
Flight
St. Louis Lambert International Airport (STL)
St. Louis has one main airport, St. Louis Lambert International Airport (STL). Terminal 1: Delta, United, American, Frontier, Spirit Terminal 2: Southwest Airlines Lounges: American Airlines Admirals Club (Terminal 1) and WingTips (Terminal 2) Prayer Space: An Interfaith Chapel/Prayer Room is available in Terminal 2, past Gate E40 in the E Concourse.
Rental Car
Car Rental Information
St. Louis is a wonderful city to explore, but getting around without a car can be a bit tricky since public transportation is limited outside of the downtown area. If you plan to explore beyond the immediate area, we recommend renting a car. Coordinating with family or friends on rides can also be a great option! Car rental companies with counters at St. Louis Lambert International Airport (STL) include Alamo, Avis, Budget, Dollar, Enterprise, Hertz, National, Thrifty, and Sixt. You can find these car rental services in the airport's baggage claim area in terminal 1 and more information is available on the airport website.
Travel Note
Airbnb List for Guest
We’ve curated an Airbnb list for you to explore, with choices in different neighborhoods and for different group sizes.
Travel Note
Public Transit From Airport to Hampton Inn O'Fallon, IL
For those who prefer not to drive, public transit is available to the Regency Conference Center (Shalima Reception). The trip takes about 1 hour and 34 minutes with minimal walking and requires switching from the MetroLink train to a bus. You can view the mapped route here by clicking view below.
Train
MetroLink Train & STL Attractions
The MetroLink train is also a convenient way to visit several attractions mentioned in our All About STL section, including Forest Park, Union Station, and some of the city’s most vibrant neighborhoods such as the Delmar Loop, Central West End, and Laclede’s Landing. Click on the link below to view the MetroLink map.
FAQs
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When is the RSVP deadline?
Answer
All RSVPs must be received by Tuesday, September 30. No late RSVPs will be accepted.
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What will the weather be like?
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The weather in mid-November in St. Louis can be unpredictable – it may be chilly, rainy, or even a touch of snow. Please monitor the forecast before flying in, and pack layers, a warm coat, and a pair of closed-toe shoes.
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What should I wear?
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Henna: South Asian attire and anything that is colorful/bright - fun prints, florals, etc. Women will be wearing desi clothing such as lenghas, ghararas & shalwar kameez. Men will mainly be in kurtas. However, you are welcome to wear non-desi, western attire such as suits, dresses, or anything that is dance-friendly. Shalima: This reception is a bit more formal. You can wear formal South Asian attire or the Black Tie equivalent - suits, long gowns, etc. Henna Night Inspo: https://pin.it/3tMORMWqK Shalima Night Inspo: https://onefabday.com/heritage-themed-wedding-moodboard/
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I'd love to wear traditional Pakistani/Indian clothing but don't know where to look, any advice?
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You may be able to find Pakistani/Indian clothing stores in your local city. However, for those looking for affordable online shopping, we’ve gathered a few recommendations. While we haven’t personally ordered from all of these sites, our friends have had good experiences with them: - www.lashkaraa.com - www.utsavfashion.com - www.perniaspopupshop.com - https://www.azafashions.com - Etsy and amazon also has some options You can search using terms like: “desi dresses,” “Pakistani lehenga,” “Pakistani wedding guest outfits,” “men’s shalwar kameez,” or “men’s kurta pajama.” Please note: online sizing can vary quite a bit since desi outfits are often tailored. Be sure to order in advance and allow extra time for shipping (4–8 weeks is common). For ladies: if you’d prefer not to purchase an outfit, I am more than happy to lend you one if the sizing works out. If you’re interested in this option, please reach out to Aroona!
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Are there any colors that guests should avoid wearing?
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All colors are welcome! For the Henna, we recommend bright and festive outfits — think colorful prints in mustard, orange, hot pink, purple, teal, or green. For the Shalima, since it’s in the fall, darker tones are typically the vibe.
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I am coming from out of town. Where should I stay?
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Please check the Travel tab for recommendations. Both venues are in the greater St. Louis area. We have secured a hotel block at the Hampton Inn O'Fallon (walking distance of Shalima venue). Link to book is coming soon. However, you can secure an Airbnb or Hotel anywhere in the area.
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Are there any religious or cultural traditions during the events?
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Nikkah: Our religious marriage ceremony (Nikkah) will take place on Friday. It will be a very intimate, family only event. Henna: During the Henna, the bride's arms, hands, and feet will be covered in henna, which is Pakistani tradition. The bride and groom will have special entrances with their families and friends. After dinner, there will be dance performances and an open dance floor. Shalima: During the Shalima (Wedding Reception), the bride and groom will have special entrances. The program will begin with a welcome duaa (prayer). There will be speeches from the bride and grooms family and friends. Before the end of the night, the bride and groom will participate in Jhoota Chupai, which translates to "hiding of the shoes" in Urdu. During this activity, the bride's family and friends sneakily 'steal' the shoes off the groom, and the groom's side leads a bargaining negotiation with the bride's side to get them back. At the end of the reception, the bride's family initiates the Rukhsati, which means "Bride's farewell." The family ceremoniously walks the bride and groom out of the hall, symbolizing the bride's transition from her family to the next chapter of her life in marriage.
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Is the wedding indoors or outdoors?
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All events will be indoors.
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Where should I park?
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All venues will have on-site parking available for free.
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Is it okay to take pictures with our phones and cameras during the wedding?
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Yes! We would love for you to take photos and videos and make tiktoks!
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Will there be dancing?
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There will be dancing at the Henna! A mix of performances and open dance floor.
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Will I get a chance to take professional photos with the couple?
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Yes, we will have time for all friends and family to take professional photos with the couple.
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Can I bring a date?
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Please refer to your invitation.
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Are kids welcome?
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Please refer to your invitation.
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Is there a gifts registry?
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We kindly request no boxed gifts. Envelope gifts are most welcome to help us start our life together. Thank you!
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What if I have a dietary restriction?
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Please inform Aroona and Haris via aroonaandharis@gmail.com
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What are some local must try food items I should check out while in St. Louis?
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Local Specialties to Try: - Toasted Ravioli: Deep-fried ravioli, often served with marinara sauce. - St. Louis-Style Pizza: Features a thin, crispy crust topped with Provel cheese and cut into squares. IMO’s Pizza is a popular spot to sample this local favorite. - Gooey Butter Cake: A rich, buttery dessert that's a St. Louis staple. Many local bakeries offer their own take on this sweet treat. - Ted Drewes Frozen Custard: For over 95 years and four generations, Ted Drewes has been a beloved name in St. Louis, setting the standard for frozen custard. - Jilly's Cupcakes (2 time winner and 3 time contestant on Food Network’s Cupcake Wars)
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What are some cool neighborhoods to check out in St. Louis?
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- Lafayette Square - Central West End - The Delmar Loop - Soulard - The Hill - Shaw Neighborhood - South Grand - The Grove - Kirkwood - St. Charles Historic District - Webster Groves - Forest Park
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I have song recs for the dance floor, how can I share them?
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We love to hear that! We've created two playlists, one on Spotify and one on Youtube. Please copy the URLs below into a browser to be navigated to them. (Yes, unfortunately this platform doesnt automatically create links for us!) Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1VwjbZmswIazTh5cHPVIXL?si=a3bec55058774bb6&pt=1b253e6f342d99d83d28d9cd1e8d7e59 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAOln0Ly0XlX8LdIqW40LrQQmAN_J8F2E&jct=5QSPzjX5LeNBikQXDAHJrw
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How can I learn about updates in real time and stay in touch with all the cool people I meet?
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Great question! We have created a Whatsapp group for our guests to join. It's a great place to ask questions, share pictures and stay connected post wedding! Join now using this link https://chat.whatsapp.com/FZQFnF7vbfN6EBlEG6Fd6W?mode=ems_copy_c
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I have a question not answered here; how do I contact you?
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Text Aroona or Haris or email us at aroonaandharis@gmail.com
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