It Takes Two: How to Split the Decisions Fairly When Wedding Planning

Wedding planning comes with a lot of decisions. Like, a LOT of decisions. And we’ve noticed a not-so-fun fact: one person somehow becomes the default decision maker.

Part of the issue is decades of societal and gender “norms,” along with the expectation and assumption on behalf of a lot of different people that one half of the couple is going to do all of the work. Or, if one partner tends to be “the planner” in the relationship, they might feel like their partner simply won’t be interested in helping or that it’s easier to just do it themselves. This imbalance can really take a toll.

Decision fatigue is a very real thing, and when one partner is taking on more than the other, it can cause friction. In fact, the number one thing that couples tell us they want to change about wedding planning is the assumption that one person is going to do everything.

That’s why we created Split the Decisions: an AI tool that can help you be a team right from the very start of wedding planning.

To begin, each partner provides a little info, like their priorities, concerns, desired style and vibe, and general feelings about wedding planning.

Then, you’ll answer a few “who’s more likely to” questions as a pair, like who’s more detail-oriented and who’s more creative, to discover your strengths and preferences in a fun way.

And then voila! We’ll divide up all the wedding planning tasks based on who’s the best fit for each, as well as providing a list of joint tasks. If you have any feedback, type it in and the tool will adjust! If not, it will share a downloadable link to your split to-do list, complete with links to free Zola tools and resources.

Invisible labor affects a lot of relationships, and wedding planning can bring those imbalances to light in a major way. We’re excited for couples to start wedding planning as a team with Split the Decisions. Because if you can plan a fantasy draft, you can plan a wedding.

A note about the tool: Split The Decisions is available with a ChatGPT+ subscription. We built the tool with ChatGPT+ so that we could use existing technology to bring an exciting new feature to couples quickly. You can find Split The Decisions in the ChatGPT store, and via direct link. (It’s $20/month for a ChatGPT+ subscription, but starting wedding planning from a balanced place is priceless 🙂)