Santa Barbara Airport (SBA) is the closest, LAX is roughly a two hour drive.
State Street for dinner and drinks, the Funk Zone for breweries and wine tasting rooms, Stearns Wharf, the Santa Barbara Zoo, whale watching tours, Santa Ynez Valley for wine tasting.
Wedding - Black Tie (i.e. Tuxedos and floor length dresses). Bright colors are encouraged for women's dresses. Welcome Drinks - Smart Casual (i.e., khakis, dark denim, polos, sundresses etc.)